Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.
– Abraham Lincoln
Meaning of this quote:
The source of happiness lies within you, nothing external can make you happy or unhappy. Every aspect of your life is determined by the way you think, perceive, and see things.
Do we really find happiness when we look for it externally? Maybe that’s how we find the source of our unhappiness?
Everything we do is governed by our minds. At the end of the day, we are driven by our minds; they see, think, and perceive, which produces certain emotions. Don’t let your mind wander, let it focus on what matters most.
The difference between the darkest and lightest hours arises from how our minds perceive them and react to them. The challenges we face are largely determined by our responses to them.
You are responsible for how you feel
The way you think determines your level of happiness. Be responsible for your emotions, as external triggers might occur. At the end of the day, it’s the mind that decides whether it becomes a certain emotion or not.
Do not rely on external sources of happiness. Even though materialistic things make life easier, they shouldn’t be the main source of happiness. Realize that happiness isn’t something you can strive for, it’s always the result of your actions, thoughts, and perceptions.
Change your thoughts, and you may change your perception. You can attract happiness most effectively by not hoping for it, but instead by doing the things that will make you happy and fulfilled.
Happiness should not be based on other people’s input. Never give away your source of happiness to others. There are millions of ways to be disappointed, and this is one of them.
Remember that owning something may make us feel better, but happiness can’t be gained from it for a very long time. Because there are no limits when it comes to buying something, and relying on it is the easiest way to be disappointed.
Focus on what triggers particular emotions
You must accept that when you’re happy, you’re happy, and when you’re sad, you’re sad. It is nothing more than an emotion. There’s no point in embracing fake positivity. However, what you can do the most is reflect on what triggers these emotions and take action accordingly.
When we focus on the negatives of others, we also see the same things in ourselves. In the same way, focusing on the positives of others will lead to finding them within ourselves as well. It’s more important to have a realistic balance between them.
Don’t get your happiness from sources you cannot control. Understand that short-term pleasures are different from long-term fulfillment.
In reality, disappointment comes from trying to control or change something we can’t control. Often, the only way to get out of a difficult situation is to accept the fact and move on. The best thing to do when something unpleasant happens is to try to change it, but if you can’t, accept it for what it is and move on.
Own every emotion that your mind creates for you. You will always experience ups and downs, twists and turns. Do not dwell too much on your ups or downs, but rather embrace them and move forward.
Don’t let your doubts turn into overthinking. Overthinking is not a solution. The best way to overcome doubts is to take action. There is nothing wrong with doubts. Isn’t it true that they strengthen our process by eliminating any possible loopholes? Therefore, the best response to doubt is action.
Believe in yourself, trust your inner strength, and realize you are capable of anything you set your mind to, as long as you allow yourself to do so. You do not have limits as such, as long as you try to exceed them.
The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.
– Eric Hoffer